Honesty speaks to uprightness and fairness in dealing with other people. It’s considered a positive character trait. Discretion denotes having and showing good or sound judgment in saying and doing things. These two traits are healthy for human relationships. The absence of honest and discreet people leads to distrust among people in any given society.
It is common to find people who are honest yet discreet in disclosing information about themselves and other people. It is also common to find others who are dishonest and/or indiscreet in sharing confidences or such information left in their trust.
People are wont to be entertaining to the point of becoming a gossip, that is someone who enjoys getting and sharing, if not prying into other people’s private affairs. It’s very tempting to believe that one is a custodian of all juicy information on events, about people and certain situations. This attribute I consider the ‘let me give you the latest gist’ character flaw.
Friendships are grown over many years, with many people baring their minds to other people they consider trustworthy. Or at least to someone who won’t embellish any information entrusted to him or her in order to score a cheap point. it’s natural for people of like minds or people who are comfortable with each other to share secrets, maintain confidences, laugh, cry and plan for the future together. It isn’t unnatural to find certain relationships deteriorate over time and space.
People go away to college, that is university or other higher institutions, get married, travel out of their location or the country or engage in activities that limit their communication with old friends. Not everybody takes this severance of relationship lightly. Some people actually become angry and blame the other party for this parting. Hmmm…have you grappled with this before?
Relationships end for various reasons. One of such reasons might be that there really was no relationship in the first place. Perhaps two people tolerated each other to the point of being considered friends. It’s also likely that one person in the companionship had been destructive, while the other had been more tolerant and forgiving.
A move, a change of environment, for whatever reason might provide the opportunity to move on and live an independent life. It might also be that as some people say in Nigeria, ‘levels don change,’ and friends change in like manner. When this happens, one party may become infuriated, angry that the friend who used to be available is no longer out to impress anybody. It isn’t always a sweet pill to swallow.
Growth pains make people uncomfortable. No matter what changes one is thrown into, it’s not enough to become anti-human, unloving, naive, or misunderstanding. Friendships are more difficult to end than begin, especially for anybody who gives too much consideration to such an association. When it’s time to part, let no severance make anybody bitter or envious.
Life can’t be fair always, especially when loved ones die or move away. But that’s the reason why there’s reunion. A time for looking back and catching up. A time for thanksgiving. When this happens, if it ever happens, what will we have become? I hope not fiends.
Live, learn, laugh. And if we must love, we do so from the heart, genuinely. For then only can we meet again and not worry about having been dishonest and indiscreet with one another’s opportunities; making forgiveness difficult for the aggrieved party and pride insurmountable for the perpetrator.
It’s still WhirlWinde – the never ending opportunities.
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